Part one and two of a an awesome video I was invited to do with Joni, a mama in my practice who had a homebirth birth after cesarean, that really brings together many things pregnancy, birth, and breathwork, holistic health and healing.
Natural Remedies and Resources for Stress in Pregnancy and Beyond
Pregnancy can be an emotional rollercoaster, a time of increased sensitivity, and life circumstances often feel heightened. However, there is a wide variety of natural remedies and resources to help steady moods and enjoy the beautiful experience of pregnancy. The below recommendations will not only assist with stress relief during pregnancy, but during many stages of life. Also, do check out a recent related blog where I talk about 40 wonderful ways you can manage the powerful waves of emotions in pregnancy and beyond.
SUPPLEMENTS
For general health and physical and emotional well-being during pregnancy, make sure to eat healthy foods, stay well hydrated, and take supplements to make sure you supply yourself with needed nourishment not supplied by diet alone. Take:
A whole food prenatal multivitamin with minerals
Fish oil tested free of pollutants, for omega three essential fatty acids, 1000-2000 mg 1-2 times daily
Calcium, 250-500mg 2-3 times daily
Magnesium, 200-500mg 2-3 times daily
Vitamin B complex, 20-50 mg daily
Vitamin D, 1000 -2000 units per day, more if low blood levels
An excellent mega probiotic once daily
Get screened for iron deficiency anemia, which is common in later pregnancy, as it can exacerbate your emotional symptoms and is easy to treat. If you are prone to low iron levels, since it is almost impossible to get the necessary amount of iron in pregnancy from diet alone, you may want to prevent anemia early on by taking an herbal iron supplement like Floradix Iron tablets or in liquid.
MINDFULNESS
A wonderful life-changing approach to internal stress, feelings of depression and anxiety is learning about present moment awareness and mindfulness, and incorporating it into your daily life.
Try to make a conscious effort to increase feelings of forgiveness, appreciation, love, joy, optimism and healing, while letting go of anger, resentment, envy, fear, sadness and negativity. Most importantly, increase your awareness of anxiety provoking, tension causing, or depressive thought patterns that are not serving you. Try to shift your attention to something more positive and ultimately change your mental state. You can actually transform them at their deeper subconscious roots with Clarity breathwork.
Know that you are in charge of your feelings and how you react to stressful or painful situations, and that you have the ability to change your attitude and reaction to life experiences to more health enhancing responses. For example, you can surrender to and totally accept unpleasant life events over which you have no power. You can also view them as potential gifts, powerful stimulus to change, a wake-up call, an opportunity for personal growth, redirection and spiritual practice.
You can always try to focus as much attention as possible on the now, literally without letting your thoughts wander and dwell into the past or imagined future. Mastery over your thoughts, attitudes and reactions can have a dramatic impact on your brain chemistry, balancing the hormones responsible for affecting moods and emotions, and preventing and even treating clinical depression and anxiety.
Reduce feelings of tension and increase feelings of calm centeredness and balanced grounding by taking a “healing interval” to meditate for 10-20 minutes 2-3 times per day. Sit comfortably and quietly. Keep your eyes closed and internally focused between your eyebrows or softly gazing at a low, still object or place (like where the floor meets the wall). Turn off the mental noise and think and do absolutely nothing. Simply be aware of your breathing in all its details, the present moment and everything that you notice within it. If you get lost in thought, simply bring your attention back to watch your breath.
Tap into your spiritual self and practice slow deep abdominal breathing, yoga (especially Yin, prenatal, gentle and restorative), QiGong, Tai Chi, progressive muscle relaxation techniques (yoga nidra), visualization and guided imagery, or cutting edge stress reduction audio programs and courses. For example, imagine you are in a place where you feel whole, inner joy and peace, and spiritually connected. Or think of a healing or rejuvenating spiritual energy or light flowing through and around you. This is an essential, yet easy to learn, tool with endless benefits and rewards to your physical and emotional health. Locate your nearest Zen Center (Zen is NOT a religion and does not conflict with any religion) or read any book by Thich Nhat Hanh, Pema Chodron, or Shunryu Suzuki to learn the basics of meditation and Zen practice.
Make sure you are getting enough sleep at night, and rest during the day. Listen closely to your body’s messages. You may need to either slow down or become more busy with things that bring you deeper satisfaction and enrichment. You may need more time for yourself, or you may need to focus more on giving or helping others. It is extremely beneficial to find a small way to help someone in need each day, by giving your time, energy and presence to ease the burden and increase the happiness of even one person. Focus on connections with family and friends, healing relationships, making peace and giving love.
Minimize or avoid watching and reading the news, or take periodic news fasts. Unplug from the computer and smart phone as much as possible, especially reduce time spent on addictive programs and apps (including computer games, social media, and even email) as they increase inner stress, anxious feelings, impair well-being, and cause a variety of health issues. Empower yourself to listen to your body and choose limited times and online activities you enjoy or absolutely need to do. For additional information and guidance, read “How to Break Up With Your Phone: The 30 Day Plan to Take Back Your Life,” by Catherine Price.
BREATHWORK
Start with being breath awareness - being more conscious about your breath, and simply focusing all of your attention on your breathing. Get curious about all the details of your sensations as you inhale and exhale, without trying to change anything. Notice what you are currently seeing, hearing, smelling, feeling, tasting. Just watch without judgment. This brings you to the present and is deliciously relaxing.
Before going to bed at night, as well as before rising in the morning, periodically throughout the day, and whenever you feel stressed, triggered, down or upset, practice the following 3-part breathing exercise:
Exhale slowly through your mouth with an audible sigh while consciously releasing any and all muscle tension.
Imaging a pump expanding your abdomen and lower back as you breathe down deep into your belly.
Allow ribs to expand with air, then inhale air into your upper chest towards your collar bone and shoulders
Inhale in this way for a count of 4.
Hold for a count of 4 while staying relaxed.
Exhale slowly through your mouth for a count of 4, releasing in the same order as the inhale, collapsing/returning to baseline, your abdomen, ribs, then upper chest. This is the ideal form of breathing, as opposed to rapid shallow breathing. With each exhale, let go and relax more.
Repeat this cycle a total of 8 times or at least a few minutes.
Once you get the hang of it, play with various types of breathing. Try several minutes of inhaling and exhaling, each to a count of 3, 4, 5 or 6 without the hold, keeping it smooth and even. Then double the length of exhalation. For example, so if you inhale to a count of 3, then exhale to a count of 6.
See how it feels to triangle breathe for a few minutes. Inhale for a count of 3 or 4, exhale to the same count of 3 or 4, then pause for the same count of 3 or 4, while consciously and deeply relaxing your diaphragm muscle of respiration, as well as all other muscles. Repeat for several cycles.
Then see how it feels to box breathe. To do this, inhale to a count of 3, hold for a count of 6, exhale for a count of 6, hold for a count of 3. Repeat for several minutes. Many love this type of breathing so much they do it as often as they can, such as while waiting, in transit, before rising in the morning and going to sleep at night.
These are wonderful natural tranquilizers, especially if you do it often. While breathing, be mindful and just observe and release any muscle tension working your way slowly from head to toe, and then be mindful of what you are currently seeing, hearing, smelling, feeling, tasting (just watch without judgment …this brings you to the present and is wonderfully relaxing). You do this and you are getting the benefits of both slow deep breathing and meditation.
Another great breathwork technique that disengages your conscious attention from thought and relaxes the nervous system, and can be done any time (like when traveling, waiting in line, resting, bathing, or on the toilet) is forced exhalation. After a normal breath, try squeezing as much air out as possible using your intercostal muscles, then allow breath to come in naturally and deeply, but automatically. Repeat the cycle for several minutes.
These breathwork techniques are simple to do, health enhancing, totally safe, and without side effects. If you need more personal guidance, schedule a session with me.
LEARNING MATERIALS
For more information about thought and emotional mastery, and other great ways to improve your overall well-being, read more from the variety of resources below. Make a commitment to practice and transform your life for the better. It is beyond worth it to feel your absolute best. There are amazing books about miraculous tools to remedy wounds from the past, relieve internal stress, tap into your inner power and basically heal almost all stress-related problems of the heart, mind and body to live a vibrant, joyful life.
Some great books include:
Just Breathe by Dan Brule
Breath Love by Lauren Chelec Cafritz
Breathe Deep Laugh Loudly by Judith Kravitz
Conversations with the Goddesses by Agapi Stassinopoulos
Pussy: A Reclamation by Regina Thomashauer
Practicing the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
From Panic to Power by Lucinda Bassett
Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life by Wayne Dyer
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
Full Catastrophe Living by John Kabat-Zinn
Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
True Refuge by Tara Brach
Accomplishing More by Doing Less by Marc Lesser Book
The Journey: A Practical Guide to Healing Your Life and Setting Yourself Free by Brandon Bays
Natural Health, Natural Medicine by Dr Andrew Weil
A Mind of Your Own: The Truth About Depression and How Women Can Heal Their Bodies to Reclaim Their Lives by Dr. Kelly Brogan
Own Your Self: The Surprising Path beyond Depression, Anxiety, and Fatigue to Reclaiming Your Authenticity, Vitality, and Freedom by Dr. Kelly Brogan
Websites
drwaynedyer.com for more resources from Dr Wayne Dyer.
thework.com for more from Byron Katie, about loving what is.
stresscenter.com to learn about Attacking Anxiety and Depression, a Self-Help, Self-Awareness Program.
behavioraltech.org to locate a cognitive behavioral therapist closest to you.
mbct.com for resources and info on a proven mindfulness-based cognitive approach to feelings of chronic unhappiness and depression.
mindfullivingprograms.com offers courses using the mindfulness-based stress reduction program (MBSR).
drweil.com to learn more from one of the founding fathers of integrative medicine - merging complimentary alternative health care with science addressing the mind, body, heart and spirit.
avivaromm.com is an excellent resource for herbs and natural remedies for common aliments facing women and children, including depression and anxiety, by renowned midwife, physician and herbalist, who bridges traditional wisdom with modern medicine.
neuroassist.com provides information regarding amino acid support for emotional health.
thejourney.com offers retreats and local practitioners teaching deeply awesome and extremely effective mindbody approaches to health.
kellybroganmd.com for wonderfully effective holistic and integrative psychiatric approaches to mental wellness without medication.
mamagenas.com the official site for Mama Gena’s School of the Womanly Arts, leader of a global movement to reclaim the feminine, helping countless women to reclaim their power, feel exquisitely comfortable within their bodies and souls, and live with radiant pleasure.
Ibfbreathwork.org the international organization for conscious breathing and breathwork for optimal health and well-being. This site also lists local practitioners and retreat workshops that are extremely transformational and profoundly healing for thousands and thousands of people around the world.
HERBAL STRESS RELIEF
Most of the supplements and herbal remedies I recommend are available on my customized online holistic apothecary. Find the best supplements that have gone through my thorough screening process there. Look in the category for mental/emotional well-being or search them individually. My online dispensary is a convenient way for you to purchase my hand-picked, professional-grade, whole food supplements and other natural health products. Ordering is simple, and the products will be shipped directly to your home or work within a few days.
Herbs are mentioned last, as they can be used as supportive to your personal growth and self mastery efforts and, except for nourishing tonics, are for short term use only. For best results, they should not be relied upon alone, used without the above mentioned techniques. Inner peace and happiness are an inside job.
Drink Red Raspberry leaf, Skullcap, Motherwort, Chamomile, Lemon balm and/or Lavender tea to relax you. Peppermint or Spearmint tea will lift your spirits. You can make a lovely calming infusion, which is more effective than the ready made teas, by mixing a pinch of each dried herb: chamomile, lavender and lemon balm. Add to 1 cup boiling water, steep covered in a glass mason jar for 15-20 minutes, strain, add lemon, fresh mint or honey to taste, and drink.
Nettle and Dandelion are common herbs recommended in pregnancy to take as a nourishing tonic, but they are also wonderful for regulating blood sugar, supporting the adrenals, improving nutrient intake and building iron levels. In turn, this can balance your emotions, lessen mood swings and irritability.
To make an infusion:
Soak a handful of each dried herb in 1 quart of boiling water for 3-4 hours.
Strain in a mason glass canning jar.
Add lemon or lime juice, fresh mint or honey to taste.
Drink 1-3 cups per day.
Nettle and Dandelion can also be taken as a tincture, 1 dropperful each 3-4 times daily.
Oatstraw works best to nourish and calm the nervous system when taken over time. You can add a generous pinch of the dried herb to the infusion above. Or, take 1 dropperful of the tincture of fresh creamy milky oat tops in its most potent form 1-2 times daily.
Motherwort is great for occasional use after the first trimester, to help restore emotional balance when feeling stressed, restless, irritable, or overwhelmed. Take 1/2 -1 dropperful of the tincture. Repeated if needed every 15-30 minutes for 3 hours or up to 2-3 times daily for 2-3 days.
Skullcap has a similar effect as Motherwort, but more helpful to calm, and can be used regularly. Take ½ - 1 dropperful of tincture a few times per day. Both Skullcap and Motherwort are helpful to have on hand in labor as well as postpartum.
Passionflower is a great herb to take when feeling cranky, short tempered, anxious or experiencing frequent changes of mood. Try ½-1 dropperful of the tincture or 2 capsules of standardized extract up to 3 times per day as needed.
Reishi Mushroom is an excellent natural remedy for stress and anxiety. It is calming and also helps with sleep. Take 1-2 capsules up to three times daily.
Valerian can be taken on occasion, especially if you can not fall asleep at night because of feeling stressed or anxious. Take 2 capsules of standardized extract or one dropperful of the tincture in juice to help with taste.
CBD from hemp oil. This is the new rage, as it is gently calming, relieves anxiety and helps with sleep without the potential risks of the THC component of cannabis on the developing fetus. Results from anecdotal evidence and preliminary research, although sparse (as is common with most natural remedies in pregnancy), are promising. Make sure it is absolutely pure, and from a reputable source who can recommend proper dosing or from pharmacies licensed to dispense it. It is usually taken as several drops under the tongue.
Bach Flower Rescue Remedy can be used in temporary stressful situations, 4-6 drops every 10-15 minutes for a few hours. Repeat as needed. There are many flower essences effective and safe for specific transient emotional symptoms on an energetic level, developed by physician Dr. Bach. If you are interested in exploring this modality, get yourself a wonderful reference and a a starter kit for you to use now and beyond for your growing family.
Homeopathic remedies are wonderfully safe and effective for relieving emotional stresses and imbalances. You can consult a classical homeopath, or refer to books like Homeopathy For Pregnancy, Birth and Your Baby’s First Year by Miranda Castro.
Dr. Aviva Romm advises in “The Natural Pregnancy Book” taking a small dose of American Ginseng, Schisandra Berries and Eleuthero, 1/2 tsp each alone or total in combination 2 times per day to nourish your adrenals especially if you are overtired, burned out, overworked or overstressed. I would say it is best to avoid them in the first trimester. See her recent more comprehensive blog on remedies to support your adrenals in stressed modern times.
St. John’s Wort can help relieve mild to moderate depression. Take it if you are not pregnant (although if you are expecting, it may be a safer alternative than the common antidepressant prescription medications, to take in consultation with your provider). Dr. Andrew Weil advises 300 mg three times per day of an extract standardized to 0.3 % hypericin. Allow at least 2 months for the full effect, and minimize sun exposure if you develop a photosensitivity reaction.
SAMe is another natural remedy for mild to moderate depression and/or anxiety. Dr. Andrew Weil recommends the butanedisulfonate form, in enteric coated capsules or tablets, 400–1600 mg. per day on an empty stomach.
If not pregnant, lavender Oil can be taken one capsule before sleep for the occasional bout of insomnia or anxiety. You can try Blue Vervain, 1/2 to one dropperful 1-3 x daily. Also take Rhodiola - as a tonic herb for mild depression, anxiety and stress, 100-200 mg twice daily. Choose an extract standardized to 2-3% rosavins and 0.8-1% salidrosides. This usually improves anxiety and sleep, but needs to be taken more regularly. Obviously stop it if it is too stimulating and worsens insomnia. You can also try Ashwagandha, if you feel overstressed and burned out. Dissolve 1-2 tsp of the powder in your smoothie, tea or warm milk for 5-10 minutes 2-3 times per day. Or, take 2-3 dropperfuls of the tincture twice daily and before sleep, or 2-5 grams of the capsules daily in divided doses. One of my favorite remedies for calming anxiety and inner stress related insomnia is Kava Kava. You can take a few drops up to a dropperfuls of the tincture or 150 -450 mg of the encapsulated liquid capsules before bed for occasional short term use only. Do not use if you are taking any substance including alcohol or medications that affect the liver, or you have any liver issues. This is one of my favorite herbs for anxiety and/or insomnia from inner stress and is usually well tolerated and very effective.
Dr. Aviva Romm is an excellent resource for herbs and natural remedies for depression and anxiety, and if you are struggling with psychological symptoms, integrative holistic psychiatrist Dr. Kelly Brogan’s online course and associated resources are a must.
Contact your provider if these suggestions do not help and your negative emotions are persistent and becoming too frequent or strong to cope with, especially if you:
Have a history of depression or anxiety needing prescription medication
Are having trouble functioning
Are eating or sleeping too much or too little
Have frightening thoughts
Experience severe oscillation of moods between wild elation and despair
Feel at risk for harming yourself or others
Such severe symptoms require psychiatric evaluation and often medication to prevent or treat a more serious illness. However, try to avoid mind-altering drugs and medications (such as sedatives, tranquilizers, sleeping pills, antihistamines and steroids) unless absolutely and medically necessary.
Do not take any herb or medication before discussing it with your provider, as many are not safe for use in pregnancy. Do not take any prescription anti-anxiety or anti-depressant drug unless you are really suffering and none of these suggestions help, and you are closely supervised by your psychiatrist.
Check out my number one international best selling book Natural Birth Secrets second edition, and in adjunct, my Love Your Birth course, an online version of how I have helped thousands in my local practice. Both resources are unique, but each provide an in depth, one-of-a-kind holistic approach created by me, a seasoned nurse midwife of over two decades, who has seen everything! In both you will learn how to master your inner calm for pregnancy, labor, birth and life beyond.
Posterior Position: Practical Steps for Prevention and Remedy
A baby in a posterior position is facing your abdomen, and baby’s back is towards your back. Some babies are born easily in the posterior position with baby facing mama’s face “sunny side up.” This is especially if Mama:
Has given birth before
Is carrying a baby of average or smaller size
Has an adequate sized pelvis
Is committed, relaxed and prepared
Is able to be upright, move and change positions at will
Has the ability to eat and drink freely
Is supported by providers who are patient, calm and trained to help baby turn
Other babies in posterior position can be more challenging, creating problems like not going into labor, water breaking prematurely before labor starts, slower more difficult labor progress, exhaustion, and labor felt mostly as back pain that can be harder to cope with. All of these factors increase the risk of complications, interventions and cesarean if baby can not be safely born vaginally.
Epidurals increase the incidence of posterior babies, as well. But sometimes in prolonged labor, when Mama can no longer cope, the compassionate use of an epidural can help her give birth vaginally.
The modern sedentary lifestyle of slouching in chairs over smart phones and computers, sitting back in sofas and car seats with associated poor posture, stress and tension in our bodies contributes to the rise in babies presenting in the posterior position. Many of us are no longer as active as our ancestors and indigenous cultures around the globe. We are not often leaning forward doing manual work, which helps baby’s heavier back come forward into the anterior position, unless we are doing activities like gardening.
Ideally and actually most often, the baby will be in an anterior position facing your spine at term, or turns anterior during labor for childbirth. It is important to know when your baby moves into the optimal anterior position, so you can encourage the baby to stay there, which usually means an easier and shorter labor.
You can learn on your own what position your baby is in. But if you are unsure, ask your practitioner for help figuring it out. Then try to pay attention to your baby’s position, without getting needlessly obsessed about it. This is easier to do when your baby moves or when momentarily lying on your back. It may take a lot of concentration to understand what is what at first, but soon you will get the hang of it.
When your baby is posterior, your tummy may look flatter and feel more squashy, and you may feel arms and legs and kicks all over the front towards the middle of your tummy. The area around your belly button may dip to a concave, saucer-like shape, and you may also experience long and painful practice contractions with a more severe lower backache as your baby tries to turn around to the anterior position to engage down into the pelvis.
When your baby is anterior, the back feels hard and smooth and rounded on one side of your tummy, and you will usually feel kicks under the side of your ribs. Your belly button will normally poke out and feel firm.
Pay attention to your posture and positioning at the time when your baby may be starting to descend into your pelvis, which is during the last 6 weeks of your first pregnancy, and the last 2-3 weeks of your subsequent pregnancies. The goal is to make room for your baby to assume the optimal position for birthing.
The baby’s back is the heaviest side of its body, and will thus gravitate towards the lowest side of your abdomen. So, if your tummy is lower than your back (such as sitting on a chair leaning forward), the baby’s back will tend to swing anterior towards your tummy.
If your back is lower than your tummy (such as reclining back in an armchair with your feet up), then the baby’s back may swing towards your back into a posterior position. With this in mind, when you are 34 weeks onward, avoid any position where you are spending time leaning backwards with your knees higher than your pelvis.
Ideally, ditch the chairs. If you do need to sit on one, make sure your knees are lower than your pelvis, and your trunk is tilted slightly forward. If you need to work at a desk, consider a standing one at least some of the time, resting an alternating foot on a step stool.
Watch TV, read and lounge while kneeling on the floor, over a beanbag, birth ball, cushions, or sitting backwards on a straight backed dining room or kitchen chair facing and leaning on its back.
Practice yoga to be in shape for the lunges and varied positions used to help your baby come down and out. Use yoga positions like bound angle (badha konasana) sitting with your back upright with soles of your feet together, or on your hands and knees while curving your back up like a cat followed by dropping your spine down in an arch and/or wiggling your hips from side to side. Get out your yoga mat and support your body with props like blankets, bolsters or blocks as needed.
Avoid crossing your legs, as it reduces the space in front of your pelvis and opens up the back. Sit on a wedge cushion in the car so your pelvis is tilted forward, and keep the seat back upright.
Avoid deep squatting until baby is anterior and well down in your pelvis or when needed in labor. Deep squatting opens up your pelvis and encourages the baby to move down, so refrain from it until your baby is in the anterior position. You can squat on a low stool or yoga blocks instead, keeping your spine upright.
Rest and sleep on your side, with two pillows under your bent right knee, which should be jackknifed up towards your chest, and keep your left leg straight out.
Swim with your belly downwards, doing the front crawl and breaststroke. The leg movements with the breaststroke in particular are great for opening your pelvis and encouraging your baby into an optimal anterior position.
If Your Baby Is Posterior
Continue the above mentioned positions, and add the following exercises for 20 to 30 minutes each, 3 times daily while watching something inspirational, romantic or that makes you laugh, or while listening to music:
Maintain a knee-chest position, with your buttocks sticking up in the air to tip the baby back out of the pelvis so there is more room to turn around to the anterior position.
Sway your hips back and forth and do the pelvic rock up and down while on your hands and knees.
Crawl around the floor on your hands and knees, or hands and feet like an elephant.
Scrub your floors or do some gardening.
Swim belly down, kicking with straight legs only. Avoid frog leg movements.
Lie on a slant board (using an ironing board or see-saw), with your head down and your legs up or lay with your pelvis and legs on the top stair landing or sofa and rest on your hands or forearms on a lower stair so you are at a similar incline. Jiggle your pelvis as you do this.
Try resting and sleeping on your tummy using lots of pillows and cushions for support.
Sit on a kneeler-rocker, which is a kneeling stool that sits you in an upright position with your knees lower than your chest, and has a rocker underneath for movement that encourages your baby to rotate. There are several types. See what is best for you.
When baby turns to the anterior position, you can encourage descent further into your pelvis by walking around upright, gently massaging the baby’s buttocks downward, deep squatting and swimming, this time using lots of breaststroke frog leg kicking.
If you have lax abdominal muscles from several babies or lack of toning exercises, use a supportive maternity binder to keep baby in place. Bellefit makes a fine one, as pictured below. You can check them out and purchase here.
If Going Into Labor With a Posterior Baby
Starting in early labor, try the following movements involving altering the level of your hips, which help wiggle the baby down through your pelvis:
Walk up and down stairs, sideways if you need to.
Rock and dance from side to side.
March or tread in place.
Step on and off a step stool.
Climb in and out of the birth pool.
Lay on your side, so the part of your belly where your baby’s back is, can lean forward almost over the sofa or bed, with your upper knee resting on a lower chair.
Consider having your midwives help to rotate the baby using a variety of external techniques, or if needed, by manually lifting your baby out of your pelvis during a contraction.
During the pushing stage of labor:
Kneel on all fours, with the other leg up in a lunge. Switch legs periodically. You can do this standing, alternating one leg up on a chair moving towards and away from it.
Maintain a supported high squat in a birthing stool or hanging from a dangling squatting rope or your partner, with your bottom at least 18 inches off the floor.
You can rest on your side with one leg straight out and the other leg bent up towards your chest, supported with pillows.
Avoid lying back, semi-reclining, sitting or semi-sitting.
For more information online, visit Spinning Babies, Association of Radical Midwives, or the GentlleBirth archives for Suboptimal Fetal Positions.
Check out my number one international best selling book Natural Birth Secrets and my Love Your Birth course, an online version of how I have helped thousands in my local practice.
Both resources are unique, but each provide an in depth, one-of-a-kind holistic approach created by me, a seasoned nurse midwife of over two decades, who has seen everything! It is now recommended by midwives, physicians, health care professionals around the globe, and doulas take it for their certification training.
As always, if you need more personalized guidance, schedule a consultation with me.
Braxton Hicks and “False Labor”
There is no such thing as “false” labor. The uterus contracts sporadically throughout the entire pregnancy as the uterine muscle cells stretch and prepare for the “real” labor contractions that will open and thin your cervix and push your baby out during childbirth. A better term for these sensations would be “warm-up” labor.
These sporadic contractions or tightening sensations are referred to as Braxton Hicks contractions. They are experienced as occasional lower abdominal menstrual-like cramping in early pregnancy. But, as your pregnancy progresses, you can actually feel your uterus ball up and harden, often from the top on downward before it softens again.
While not painful, Braxton Hicks can feel like uncomfortable sensations in your abdomen and groin area. They are usually brief and irregular, occurring without any rhythm or pattern. However, they do happen with increasing frequency, length and intensity as your pregnancy advances. This can sometimes make it hard to distinguish them from actual early labor.
To Relieve Discomfort From Braxton Hicks Contractions
Make sure to keep well-hydrated with at least 64 ounces of filtered, spring or well water daily, ideally between meals, at least 20-30 minutes before or 2 hours after. Lack of fluids can cause the uterus to become irritable and tighten more often.
Frequent Braxton Hicks contractions may also be your body’s message that you are doing too much and need to slow down, so take heed. Braxton Hicks contractions usually subside when you stop what you are doing and change your position, get up and walk around, sit or lie down.
During a contraction, stay mindful and fully aware of whatever is happening in the present moment. Get curious about, and lean into and even embrace your internal sensations without the story. Practice slow deep breathing, while consciously relaxing any tense muscles. Breathe into the most intense sensations you are feeling. This enables you to hone coping techniques for labor, and for life’s challenges! When you shift your mindset in relation to discomfort and pain, especially when everything is normal (but also when not), miraculous transformation occurs. Start by welcoming it all, and look for the deeper message in your symptoms. Your body is brilliantly wise and has reasons for its behavior. This not only helps lead to relief, but also minimizes suffering, as well as point you in the direction of root causes that you need to address.
Master your breath and concentration by simply being aware of your breathing, doing three-tiered breathing and extended exhale breathing exercises on a regular daily basis.
Deep abdominal or diaphragmatic breathing is the optimal form of breathing and an effective natural tranquilizer, especially if you do it often. To train yourself in this way of breathing, start getting comfortable in a reclined position or sit up straight. Place your hands on your belly and concentrate on breathing into them. Bring your attention slowly into your body from head to toe, observing and releasing any muscle tension. Be mindful of what you are currently seeing, hearing, smelling, feeling, tasting, and all the sensations of breathing.
Just watch without judgment or attachment. This takes you into the present moment, and is wonderfully relaxing.
Three-tiered, deep diaphragmatic breathing:
Exhale slowly through your mouth with an audible sigh.
Inhale deep into your belly for a count of 4 or 5. Imagine a pump expanding your abdomen and lower back which causes you to inhale, then allows your ribs to expand with air, then your upper chest to rise towards your collarbone and shoulders.
For a count of 4 to 5, slowly release your breath through your mouth in the same order as the inhale - from abdomen to ribs then upper chest. Let go and relax more each time you exhale.
Repeat this cycle for a total of 8 times or at least a few minutes.
For more guidance and deeper transformation, schedule an online or in-person breathwork session with me.
Visualize what the tightening sensations are doing to “ripen” your cervix as it helps it to soften, come forward, shorten, become thinner, and possibly dilate or open a little in preparation for labor at term. Be reassured that a ripe cervix often responds more readily to actual labor contractions, meaning a shorter and thus easier time getting to the point when you can push your baby out.
If you are bothered by these contractions and nothing seems to help, consider homeopathy specific to your individual symptoms. Homeopathic remedies are safe and amazingly effective in alleviating this sort of cramping during pregnancy. I have had great success with Cimicifuga or Caulophyllum 30 c particular to each person’s unique presentation. You can consult with a classical homeopath, or refer to books like Homeopathy For Pregnancy, Birth and Your Baby’s First Year by Miranda Castro.
Herbs can also help you relax, sleep, lessen the pain, and either discourage your contractions, or encourage them if you are term. If you are interested in herbs, there are several options to try alone or in combination. Go for high-quality sources like Gaia, Wish Garden or Eclectic Institute, or other professional grade brands I use and recommend like those in my online holistic apothecary. Most of the supplements and herbal remedies I recommend are available on my customized online holistic apothecary. Find the best supplements that have gone through my thorough screening process there. Look in the category for uterine irritability/false labor or search them individually. My online dispensary is a convenient way for you to purchase my hand-picked, professional-grade, whole food supplements and other natural health products. Ordering is simple, and the products will be shipped directly to your home or work within a few days. See some samples from the apothecary at bottom of this blog.
For persistent irregular uterine cramping that is not associated with labor, make sure you are getting plenty of calcium and magnesium in your diet. Start by eating lots of green leafy and seaweed veggies, ground sesame seeds (tahini), wild caught fish like salmon, almonds, whole grains, and organic yogurt and cheese. Avoid excessive cow dairy intake, coffee and soda, and even spinach, which decreases calcium absorption. You may need additional supplementation. Take at least 400 mg magnesium and 1200 mg calcium daily in 2-3 divided doses, or make your own infusion of nettles and red raspberry leaf tea, using the recipe here.
Also, helpful herbs to reduce cramping are cramp bark, black haw, and wild yam. You can experiment with one of them at a time, or use all together in combination. Take 1 - 5 cc of each tincture every 30 minutes to few hours, depending on how often and intense the cramping is (particularly if it is interfering with your sleep each night in the last several weeks of pregnancy).
Prior to 37 weeks, you need to drink 2 large glasses of water, lie down and contact your midwife or doctor immediately if you experience any of these potential warning signs of premature labor:
A feeling of your uterus tightening or cramping in a pattern of every 15 minutes
Cramping becomes closer, longer and stronger
Dull lower backache that feels different than usual (not related to position or strain)
Pressure or fullness in your pelvic area like something is going to fall out
An increased amount of discharge, fluid or bleeding from your vagina
Persistent diarrhea or intestinal cramping
A sense that something isn’t right
As Things Progress
Toward the last several days to weeks of pregnancy, Braxton Hicks contractions can be frequent enough to feel like early labor, and can thus lead to frustration and exhaustion, especially if they are keeping you from sleeping. In this case, it is important that you encourage them to go away at night so you can sleep well. Unplug from the computer or smartphone after dark, dim the lights and go to bed early. For more support winding down, take a warm bath with your favorite essential oils, ask your partner to give you a soothing massage with a few drops of lavender in almond oil, read a boring book or watch light drama or a comedy, and drink a glass of warm milk. But if you need something stronger and do not have a history of alcohol addiction, drink a glass of wine or beer, or take 2 shots of whiskey in juice or before going to bed. Or try alcohol free Hops. Sufficient rest is essential to give you the needed strength for the hard work of labor to come.
Common herbs taken alone or in combination, to ease discomfort once you are in early labor are:
Motherwort tincture ¼ to ½ dropperful up to every few hours
Skullcap tincture ¼ to ½ dropperful up to every hour
St. John’s Wort tincture a dropperful up to every hour
For sleep, you can try a great mineral combination of magnesium and calcium in approximately equal amounts like 400 mg each, or doubling the magnesium available in tasty powder form to make a warm drink.
If you are interested in herbs, take 2 capsules of herbal Valerian standardized extract (400-900 mg) or Hops (300-600 mg). Using these herbs together in lower dose combination can be more effective.
Also, try CBD from hemp oil, several drops under the tongue and repeat every few hours as needed. This is the new rage, as it helps promote sleep without the potential risks of the THC component of cannabis on the developing fetus. Results from anecdotal evidence and preliminary research, although sparse (as is common with most natural remedies in pregnancy), are promising. Make sure it is absolutely pure, and from a reputable source who can recommend proper dosing or from pharmacies licensed to dispense it, as it is largely unregulated.
During the day, you have the choice of carrying on as usual and letting nature take its course, or encouraging the contractions to develop into a progressive early labor pattern by:
Taking a long brisk walk alternating with climbing stairs
Engaging in another sort of upright but gentle exercise activity like dancing - do both slow sensual with your partner, and more upbeat, funky hip hop, belly or African styles. Turn on the music that speaks to you, get lost in it and move like no one is watching.
Getting romantic and sensual, and having sexual intercourse
Rolling and pulling on your nipples as a baby would do during breastfeeding
Using a breast pump
Continue these activities until you get regular contractions every 5 minutes lasting at least 45 seconds. In any case, make sure to drink lots of fluids and eat small frequent meals of nourishing food (especially whole grains, nuts, seeds, beans, fresh fruit and vegetables, and healthy protein) as an athlete does who is running a marathon. Do something that you enjoy and/or organize a pleasant change of scenery, express your fears and emotions with your partner, a close friend or family member, and try to surrender to the process.
If you need more personal support and guidance, schedule a consultation with me. Check out my number one international best selling book Natural Birth Secrets and my online course, an online version of how I have helped thousands in my local practice. Both resources are unique, but each provide an in depth, one-of-a-kind holistic approach created by me, a seasoned holistic nurse midwife of over two decades, who helped thousands and has seen everything!
For extra support in pregnancy and relief of common aches and pains, wear an abdominal binder. Bellefit makes a fine one as pictured above. They also make postpartum support girdles . I have a holistic approach to life, including healing after pregnancy and birthing. Nothing replaces abdominal toning and exercise for restoring muscle strength and tone - which I encourage for all mamas as soon as they feel up to it postpartum. Nothing replaces touch, slow deep abdominal breathing, and a 'love your postpartum body' perspective that I promote. But I have found many mamas simply feel comforted by this support garment, especially early postpartum and temporarily as needed....to be used without forfeiting abdominal toning and strengthening exercise, breathing well and touch.
I have found Bellefit supportive garments to help like they use belly binding around the world such as in Indonesia. They do aid in early postpartum healing and provide support many mamas feel comforted by. I deal with human beings and the reality is many postpartum mom's struggle with body image, feel frustrated that getting back to themselves takes longer than expected. Being into holistic health and healing includes being sensitive to real human struggles - the mind, body, heart and soul of each person and their unique situation. Having helped countless women with these issues after having a baby as a midwife, I have found many still love that binding and feel better with this support, and ability to fit into their pre-pregnancy clothes comfortably and sooner than they would if they went through a C-section or natural childbirth recovery without it - especially when they have to dress up and fit into a certain favorite outfit for a special occasion or wedding not long after having a baby.
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Natural Induction Methods: The Evidence
Natural Induction Methods: An Unbiased Look at the Evidence
Natural methods of labor induction have been sought after for millennia by third trimester mothers for a variety of different reasons. In modern times, they're frequently a resort of mamas who might be facing a medical induction if they don't labor naturally soon.
There are myriad purported natural induction methods, but both the efficacy and safety of the methods in question are often under-studied and sometimes dubious. It's important to understand the difference between treatments that are largely safe and those that could negatively impact labor, birth, or your baby's health.
The majority of popular natural labor induction methods revolve around the consumption of plants or plant derivatives, such as castor oil and dates or pinapple, or herbal and homeopathic remedies. In the case of simple fruit consumption, there's little risk to mom beyond a stomach ache caused by an overzealous attempt. This can mislead pregnant women into thinking that all plant-based methods of attempting to naturally induce labor are safe, which is not true. In fact, some more potent plant derivatives have been shown to lead to labor complications.
The other category of natural induction methods involve forms of physical stimulus. Again, these have been attempted throughout the ages with varying degrees of success. Sexual intercourse, which is one of the most colloquially suggested methods of naturally triggering labor, has minimal risk unless a midwife or doctor has noted otherwise. Interestingly, despite its reputation, it has still been shown to be less effective at triggering labor than other forms of physical stimulus. Other stimulation methods include breast massage, acupuncture and acupressure, walking (most effective once actually in labor), uterine massage, and membrane stripping - to name just a few.
When you're attempting a natural labor induction, knowing what works and what doesn't is helpful; knowing what's healthy and what could harm your baby, however, is vital. We The Parents has compiled an infographic detailing nine of the most popular ways mothers attempt natural labor induction. For each method, the scientific evidence is examined. How much research has been done? And what do the results indicate about the efficacy and safety?
While this can help you to make an informed decision, it's also essential to get your treating physician, midwife, nurse practitioner, or other qualified health care provider’s go-ahead before trying any of these methods in order to avoid inadvertently harming yourself or your baby.
As a holistic midwife of just about 25 years, countless mamas have sought my guidance on how to bring on labor with natural modalities. I have experienced much success with a variety of methods - some not even mentioned here, but nothing has been consistent, and as with many natural remedies there is a paucity of research. As long as they are safe and sometimes effective, I will continue to recommend them, knowing that I am helping, and it is ultimately not in our control - babies prefer to come when they are ready. Many of the professional grade, top quality remedies I recommend and use often are available in my holistic online apothecary. Find the best supplements that have gone through my thorough screening process there. Look in the category for labor stimulation support or search them individually. My online dispensary is a convenient way for you to purchase my hand-picked, professional-grade, whole food supplements and other natural health products. Ordering is simple, and the products will be shipped directly to your home or work within a few days.
Also, even the powerful medicinal methods have significant risks we can not take lightly, as well as benefits when there are serious complications, and do not always work either.
A common reason women want to bring on labor naturally is the concern about being ‘too late’, the postdates testing and threat of hospital induction, along with the cascade of interventions associated with it. A key factor people often do not consider is prevention. When planning a pregnancy, I encourage women to take charge of their fertility, empower themselves with knowledge about their cycles, fertile signs and know when they conceived, so the due date is more accurate than if simply based on first day of last menstrual period alone. Read more about what you can do, covered more in depth in a previous blog. Women who do not know their cycles or the date they got pregnant can also consider an early first trimester sonogram, especially if they have a history of long or irregular cycles, or of being induced previously for carrying post-term babies; but a decision to do that should be an informed one, as there are also pros and cons of ultrasound to consider.
Knowing what you should do can seem daunting. I am here to help if you need more personalized guidance. You can also read my books, to prepare yourself for a healthy, joyful and calm pregnancy and childbirth, and for healing and enhanced well-being. For further inspiration, empowerment, and optimal health in pregnancy, birthing and postpartum, please make sure to click here to take my online Love Your Birth course, so you can ROCK your journey wherever and however you plan to give birth.
I have a holistic approach to life, including healing after pregnancy and birthing. Nothing replaces abdominal toning and exercise for restoring muscle strength and tone - which I encourage for all mamas as soon as they feel up to it postpartum. Nothing replaces touch, slow deep abdominal breathing, and a 'love your postpartum body' perspective that I promote.
But I have found many mamas simply feel comforted by this support garment, especially early postpartum and temporarily as needed....to be used without forfeiting abdominal toning and strengthening exercise, breathing well and touch. I have found Bellefit supportive garments to help like they use belly binding around the world such as in Indonesia. They do aid in early postpartum healing and provide support many mamas feel comforted by.
I deal with human beings and the reality is many postpartum mom's struggle with body image, feel frustrated that getting back to themselves takes longer than expected. Being into holistic health and healing includes being sensitive to real human struggles - the mind, body, heart and soul of each person and their unique situation.
Having helped countless women with these issues after having a baby as a midwife, I have found many still love that binding and feel better with this support, and ability to fit into their pre-pregnancy clothes comfortably and sooner than they would if they went through a C-section or natural childbirth recovery without it - especially when they have to dress up and fit into a certain favorite outfit for a special occasion or wedding not long after having a baby. For more info on the Bellefit girdle, check out my blog about it here.
Have a Great Postpartum Recovery (with a little help from Bellefit)!